Parents VS Teenagers

( this is my real life story, not created..... because im lost and i just do not knw what to do but to write them down instead...no one will understand hw i feel and what im going thru until and unless u step in my shoes!!! )

The question

The primary job as parents is to keep their youngsters safe. Are they permitted to “snoop” on them in order to protect them from harm? Should parents read their teens diaries, listen to their phone conversations, and check their email log and stalk on their facebook?

The Court Case

Before this questions can be answered, parents should be aware of their legal rights. Dear parents, ur not dealing with kids but ur dealing with teenagers!!

Parent : Will we get into trouble for performing our parental duty?

the teenager would answer, well, it depends on how u handle ur parental duty.

Parent : Are there limits to our parental prerogative?

The teenager would answer, is that even a question, lol !!

The Debate

Situation : My daughter doesn’t talk to me. If I ask her about her school, she says ‘its fine’. She is very irritable , she spends most of her time in her room, listening to songs, hanging on the internet, and most of the time on the phone. She does not respond properly when I ask her certain questions and sometimes she acts in a very strange way. But im happy, she still stays at home.

Parents are in agony when left in the dark about a teens activities. Who knows what she is doing! Is she involved with the “wrong” type of peer group? Is she hurting herself by engaging in behavior that is dangerous, either physically or emotionally, or illegal? What is a parent to do?

On the one hand, maybe we should just control our anxious thoughts and feelings. After all, we parents recognize our teenagers’ desire for privacy. They need time to be alone, space for their possessions, and the knowledge that we won’t pry into their lives. We want to have a relationship of trust and respect with them. We also want them to become increasingly independent so that they may be prepared for adulthood. If we control their lives too much we might impair their decision-making ability and hinder them from attaining the self-confidence to make the important decisions that lie ahead.

The key problem

She is in a relationship with this guy. She sees future with him. Parents are obviously against it. That’s when, hell starts!

The reality

In my case, my parents snoop over me all the time.. I’m a teen , 19 going on 20. Yet, they control my life to the max. I had no privacy at all till I had to hv double security code in my phone, my diary had to be thrown, my messages must be kept locked in a private folder. What makes it even worse, my phone has to be in my pocket 24/7. I just cant seem to be open to my parents. Gap has been created. Now, whats the solution??

My mother shouts at me all the time. She doesn’t understand how I feel. She misunderstands me all the time, she controls my life like no other. She’s allergic to see guys around me. Now, she has instill a fear in me which is hard to describe. On the other hand, I hv a dad who listens to my mom a million percent. No doubt, he is not strict at all..but somehow I cannot reach him as well… What should I do?

The Expected Convo

The girl : dad, we need to talk.

Dad : yes girl, what is it?

The girl : well dad, I hv something on my mind that is bothering me. I cant eat, I cant sleep, I cant study, I just cant do anything but to feel depressed.

Dad : ok, what is it? Tell me whats ur prob.

The girl : ok. Im in a relationship with this guy whom I love.

Dad : so, what are u trying to say now?

The girl : im trying to say that I want some space .. to spend time with him when im back.

Mom interrupts

Mom : Is it very important for u to be in a relationship right now? Cant u get ur priorities right? Why are my girls always so interested in getting into a relationship. Guys are just making use of u’ll and u girls are being so stupid and cheap!!

The girl : is falling in love a crime?

Dad & mom : ur being very disobedient. U are not honouring ur parents. Ur going against ur parents and this is not the way u shud talk to ur parents.

The girl : but the guy is a Christian, a good guy, a future pilot, and his family has accepted me. Why cant u’ll accept him?

Dad : well, u tell me ..who doesn’t want their daughter-in-law to be a future doctor?

The girl : that’s not the point here.

Dad : then wats the point?

The girl : why are u not approving of my relationship.

Dad : Because at the moment, its not important. Just look at the louis’s children.

The girl : *what the fuck face*

Dad : that’s why I say u’ll are being very disobedient to ur parents.

The girl : *loses her temper* and says…well, now u knw, why we cant be open to u’ll..

Dad : U shud knw hw to set ur priorities right.

The girl : I knw hw to set my priorities right. U just don’t understand hw I feel.

Dad : same goes here…

Th girl : i am tryin to put forth my problems and not hide anything from u.. in return, this is what i get. nw u knw, why we hide stuffs from both u and mummy.

(Conversation goes no where.. it ends up with arguments and its left abruptly….)

The conclusion

Dear teens, if u are facing the exact same thing im feeling…then its high time we teens rebel.. this is to teach our parents a lesson and see hw they react to it.. because of my parents over protection, im going thru a lot of depression and heartaches. So yeah, this is not the life I want to live. Live is short. We should be happy and live life to the fullest.

Dear parents, please don’t be too over protective over ur teens… For gods sake, they are no longer babes.. they hv grown up and they know wat is right for them. If u support them, they will turn to u no matter what happens, even in their darkest hour. They would be open to u and there will not be a generation gap. And most of all, they would not go on lying to u!!!